Why are new things difficult?
Everybody has habits. They develop into sequences that you do at certain times of the day. Some can be positive, some can be negative.
For example, most people wake up at the same time each day, followed by the usual morning routine. Similarly, night time routines may include eating and watching netflix.
“Repetition of behaviour in stable circumstances yields automaticity in responding as associations develop in memory among aspects of circumstances, behaviours, and goals that co-occur in time and space and that possess similar features,”
Wendy Wood
Living on autopilot brings a certain security, same thing every time – no extra effort or thinking needed.
During COVID19 Lockdown in Australia, my daughter got into a habit of, after homeschooling, watching netflix and eating sweet snacks. This became a powerful habit that prompted her to always reach for sugary treats when watching anything – including a brief YouTube video on my phone.
Why ARE new things difficult?
Some new things are difficult and some are not. They may be equivalent to related skills you already have. For the skills or habits that are not difficult, it is worth breaking it down to its parts. By deconstructing and reconstructing (or having it done by an experienced teacher) you can isolate what it is that is new. This can expose the general rule that holds them together to form the unfamiliar. This is how can build skill sets that you can reuse in other circumstances or skills.
Yes, some things actually are harder and you may not be ready. What seems similar but easier? Is it worth exploring these until the hard stuff seems easy? Or is it worth ignoring it?
Why do we THINK new things are difficult?
Doing something we know well and going on autopilot is certainly easier than looking hard at something new with the aim of working out how it fits into the grand scheme of things. It can hurt your efficacy or how you view your own abilities. Suddenly, it seems, you are having difficulty when you thought you were good at it. This is true growth.
We fear an unknown outcome more than a known bad one.
Ok, they aren’t always hard, but why do we continue to say they are even if the sum of the parts are equal to a known skill? This is the meat of the problem.
Difficult is sometimes used as a defense aganst that slightly uncormfortable feeling.
nir eyal talks about distraction as the avoidance of pain. Trying new things may give larger gains than avoidance but it’s not logical. It’s emotional.
Other factors:
- overconfidence
- historical accident
- power of precedent

Some other fears:
- failure
- success
- lookish foolish.
Even if the potential gains are huge, we may convince ourselves we don’t need to or it will happen one day when we feel like it or have time or whatever lie we tell ourselves.
Why do we SAY new things are difficult?
Sometimes we don’t want to look foolish, we aren’t living up to the ideal self we would like to show the world. By saying a new skill or habit is hard when we honestly know that it isn’t can let us off the hook. It reduces the pressure we put on ourselves.
Sometimes it’s so we don’t look dumb in front of others. If it’s hard, we can’t be expected to do it first time around. Sure, but as a teacher I see this from students of all ages. It’s a mechanism. And it changes the way you think about it.
Why do we avoid the solution, even when it’s right there?
What can you do about it?
Trying something new requires:
- Courage
- Possible enjoyment
- Fights boredom
- Growth
The Learning Approach
Enjoy the process not just the outcome. Even if you don’t end up doing it or need the end result, you will have learned more about yourself.
Growth mindset is an advantage. Fixed Mindset is not.
COVID19 has changed everybody’s routine in some way or another, the difference is in how you handle it; are you a “bring back normal” person or “bring on change, we have room for improvement” kind of person?
I have had many students that, once they have managed to perform a new skill correctly once, then move on rather than relish the experience. If you want to master the skill, you need to repeat it until it is your new normal. If you stop, you don’t prioritize mastery.
Can you stare at the abyss and walk into it, even if it makes you uncomfortable? You may be more prone to success
Or does staring down a new thing make you turn away and open social media or call it difficult or change the subject in someother way?
Sources
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/01/business/why-trying-new-things-is-so-hard.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/happiness-in-world/201004/trying-new-things
https://books.google.com.au/books/about/Michel_Thomas.html?id=8fQQAAAACAAJ
https://www.simplypsychology.org/Zone-of-Proximal-Development.html
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambiguity_effect
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/315552294_Habits_Across_the_Lifespan








